“Please don’t go to sleep,” did I really just say those words?! Yes I did and I’ve said them multiple times this week. Words that I thought would never come out of my mouth.
We are currently in the middle of dropping one of my son’s two naps and I must say, it’s an odd feeling. I have so many questions…. Is he truly ready? Doesn’t he need the sleep? Is he beyond ready and I’m forcing sleep? Is he throwing everything out of his crib because he’s not tired? What nap do we drop? Is his nap time cutting into his night-time? What am I going to do with him the hour and a half he used to nap? When am I going to shower/blog/do the dishes/gather myself? Am I being selfish? Ugh, we’ve been pretty smooth sailing in our current routines and now things are getting bumpy.
The pediatrician said that children typically drop to one nap a day around a year old. Well my friends, here we are and here we are. With the doctors convincing, I’ve decided to rearrange our schedule to include just one nap. There’s no time like the present, so we might as well do this.
Fisher has not been napping well this week, which is a change for him. His naps have been shorter than normal. I can sense his need to be awake, alert and active. The last several days, he has taken so much time to settle to sleep. He throws his blankets out of the crib and when I go in he laughs, crawls around the crib, stands and says mama. It’s frustrating and melts my heart at the same time. I walk out of his room thinking, “He is so cute, I love him so much but he is not coming out of that crib without a nap!” He has refused his afternoon nap since the moment he turned one year old, funny how that works. But I think we want to drop the morning nap and combine the two naps into one earlier nap, so I’m going to have to retrain my son.
I’ve been on a mission the last two days to get this routine going, but it hasn’t gone as planned. I planned to keep him up, playing, out and about running errands, have lunch earlier than usual, then go down for an early afternoon nap. Which, if all went accordingly, would be two to three hours long. Not the case. The last two mornings, my son has been so sleepy that my heart hurt for him. He was showing all the classic sleepy cues: yawning, rubbing eyes, quieted, eyes glazed over and then the deep stare that screams, I’m about to drift off to the land of dreams. Trying to keep him awake has made me feel so guilty. I’ve started questioning the nap drop.
The last two mornings, Fisher has fallen asleep, but only for brief periods. There was no stopping him. Provided a lot of settling time, he has taken short afternoon naps too and has been wide awake around his bed time. It’s taking him a good hour to settle down before going to sleep for the night. The last two days haven’t been a win but they have given me some insight. We’ve just got to come up with a rhythm, which takes trial, error and practice. I have to remind myself that it’s ok to be flexible…. for a little while at least.
I guess we’ll keep trying and slowly wean into a new routine and schedule. Our predictable schedule is no longer. At the time being, it feels like things are getting a bit out of control, though I realize it’s just a transition period. I just need to figure out what we are transitioning to, will keep you posted. Change is difficult for this structured and organized mama, but I got this. I know it ultimately benefits my little guy and that’s what this is all about. It’s his world, I just live in it!
I’m curious, when did your little drop to one nap a day? How did it go? Please share any ideas you may have for smoothing the nap drop transition.
Peace & Love,